I have been sitting on this topic for quite some time, following current discussion and accumulating testimony.
I have mixed feelings regarding the current discourse. On the one hand, stupidity and flock mentality is something I absolutely loathe – on the other hand, I have always been the person to stand up for justice for me, for others, and reassuring others to speak up and take action in situations where it is in their power to stop a person and prevent others from suffering.
Whereas I have never had physical altercations of the #metoo hashtag variety, I get aggressive when I hear something like this to have happened or even implied by someone I care about in the slightest amount. My theory in this regard is that being a mixed predator myself, I sort of like to keep my neighbourhood clean. It is also an assessment or assertiment of my own power to be able to restrain other, more malicious co-humans in my vicinity.
You see, I have personally always been the kind of person who knows what she wants and is not afraid to speak up. I have told my boss when I am not happy with something and I have mostly been in a leading rather than following position in several situations in life. I am the kind of gal who goes on a group trip alone and is suddenly followed by three other complete strangers because they feel like I could be trusted to lead and navigate in a foreign country. And that was when I was around twenty, followed by a flock aged forty.
It is one thing to assume that society is divided into predators and prey, but on the one hand having power and means often comes with a pre-coded enabling posse of yes-men who very quickly and effectively lead the individual to moral ambiguity and oblivion of decency.
The other problematic aspect is the similarly coded mentality of the people without those means, even if they are prone to a predatory nature, as quickly adopt the idea that in their current position it is normal to succumb, and to give power only for the promise to gain power.
The fact that such predatory people exist is something one must know and the sooner one learns the better – this is one of the many reasons why I implore females to read Philip Roth or Michel Houellebecq, to see reality in all it‘s faces and to come to grip with it.
It is by no means fault of the prey to fall under the predator‘s claws. However, to stand against such individuals it is crucial to understand how many are among us. A man can be irrefutably brilliant at his craft or his business and for those qualities admired by many. The fact that he also abuses his inferiors of those he considers to be inferior – defined by status, age or gender. The anatomy of such a man is described quite well by both Houellebecq and Roth, so one will do well to use the materials and get aquinted with the darknet of predatorial psychology.
A tad like the article in the New York Times, about white nationalist and Tony Hovater (link), we need to see the everyday neighbour and the dude on the subway as a potential predator, oppressor, misogynist, et cetera. It is not a matter of attaining a position of distrust but rather adopting of a critical worldview in general I am proposing. Awareness and alertness can strenghten a person’s chances in possibly dangerous surroundings – and the world is a wonderful, dangerous, disgusting, ambivalent place after all.
Walk around with your eyes open, and it might help you or someone escape that predator, lurking near you, looking for it‘s next prey. One can only hope that the current discourse and changes in the manner of dealing with predators will lead to a generation of people who do not blindly flock through life, become more educated, outspoken and independent individuals.
What do you think?